Thursday, December 19, 2013

Because YOU Are Awesome

"While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about."  ~ Angela Schwindt

I came across Brittany's awesome article today and was so touched by her honesty, it made me think of my own journey with my three daughters thus far.  As I have been growing into an adult, [someday I will get there; I just know it!] I find that I reflect more on my own childhood and how that has shaped me into the mother|wife|daughter|friend that I am today.  

My mom is beautiful and always has been. I have always viewed her as the most lovely and stylish of all women.  So, having memories of her not an effort to maintain her already slim figure was confusing to me as a child.  We never discussed self image and the paramount pressures that society places on the already delicate pubescent years of a girl.  She was and is a loving mother and always supported me, however, I knew from early on she was not comfortable with her own image.  

I never really gave my own body much thought either way until I had my first real boyfriend at sixteen.  I now began to examine my new curves in a negative way.  Until now, I had somehow side-stepped the comparing game that so many of my friends had played.  Ok ok , I must admit I did spend a summer completely envious of the perfection that was Tawny Kitaen [who can forget her seductively rolling across the two Jaguar's....I mean, seriously].  But here I was, not feeling good about myself.  After skipping a few meals and making myself throw up my delicious McDonald's apple pie, it occurred to me that no boy was worth giving up apple pie.  If he didn't like me for who I was, he wasn't the right boy.  It took me many years to learn that  it is what I think of myself that really matters.  I cannot be my best for anyone else in my life if I am not comfortable with the person I am - inside and out.

Fast forward a few years to my own motherhood.  Theirs is a completely different world.  In addition to general peer pressures, movie starlets, and airbrushed magazine covers; girls now have Internet and cable where shallow, dysfunctional behavior is celebrated.  As a parent, you constantly have your shield drawn trying to protect their sweet, innocent minds. I tell them everyday how amazing, smart, silly, fun and beautiful they are.  I want them to love themselves for the person they are on the inside but also be comfortable with the outside.  I want them to grow up and kick ass. I want them to know their value and not ever, for one minute, doubt their significance and power.  I don't want them to ever feel they aren't good enough for another person or situation.

I loved the entire article but was especially taken with these lines because it is so true.  We should create and own our happiness.

We wear lipstick when it rains. Injecting a moment of charm into something dreary makes us happy, and that's an empowering thing. We own our happy moments, we don't need to wait for others to create them for us.

Words cannot express how truly blessed and fortunate I feel that I get to be Mommy to these three little girls.  I am teaching them about self acceptance but they, too, are teaching me lessons each day.

Have the best day ever!

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